Adult Bullies

This past school year I have seen numerous students bully and be bullied. We work to correct the behavior to no real avail. The problem does not start with the student. The problem begins with the role model. When we call parents about the behavior they attempt to bully us into not punishing their child. This year we have had an adult bully, not a sneaky/sly bully, but an outright, blatant bully in our school. She picks and chooses the ones she wants to terrorize. I was told that she focused on white faculty and staff, this was by a fellow teacher who is of color. She noticed that the bullying was based on race. Why this behavior is allowed by employees, I don’t know. We call SOME students on the carpet for this behavior. Why the double standard?

It appears my recent posts have been about race. Others’ problems with my race. Let us call it what it is, racism. I don’t say reverse racism because I think that is a crap term. Racism isn’t just one race (white) against another (black). Racism is ANY person who believes they are better because of their race and treats other as if they are less based solely on ‘race’. There are so few pure races in the US it seems absolutely absurd to base an opinion on someone solely on the color of their skin or the perception of who they are from the outer package. Please.

Let’s take control of our schools. We have a student code of conduct, let’s use it. We have an employee code of conduct, let’s use it. Too many double standards. Break the rules, pay the consequences. Once we get the adult bullies in line perhaps we can address the student bullies.

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“Disney is Ruining My Kid”

http://vigilantcitizen.com/latestnews/mom-blog-disney-ruining-kid/

I have stolen this article title. I admit it. I stole it because I have heard numerous parents and grandparents say something similar. They can no longer trust the Disney Channel to have upright, safe, moral programs for their children.

The mom who wrote the article was shocked to see her child’s behavior changing from a sweet respectful and caring child to a spoiled brat who was rude and hurtful to those around her. When she asked her daughter where she learned to say the things she was saying and do the things she was doing, her daughter replied “Disney Channel” shows. So the mom decided to spend the day watching her daughter’s programs. She was shocked at the rudeness and crudeness of the main characters. She was distressed to see that bullying and hurtful words were met with laughter (canned no doubt). All the things she worked so hard to teach her child not to do were being undone by the child-friendly, “wholesome” Disney Corporation. In the Disney world, smart is bad, beautiful is good. Sneaky, contrived, manipulating scenarios are funny.

I have noticed a new trend in Disney as well; stupid parents. Yep, usually Dad is the more moronic, Luddite-like, buffoon. Mom is marginally better, always overly-motherly and concerned for her child. Dad is usually depicted as either overly laid-back or overly protective of his daughter’s honor. Children are down-right disrespectful of their parents and other adults.

Another issue I have with these shows: there is an overly smart child who is dorky and usually does not fit into the “in-crowd” and the dumber child is cool. Oh, and everyone is okay with the lesser intelligent child being an underachiever because he/she is attractive and cool.

Disney is beginning to support the breakdown of the family unit. When children come off cooler and more intelligent than parents and are always teaching their parents lessons, we have a problem. To be fair, Disney is not the only perpetrator of this genre of entertainment. I see it nearly every children’s and teen’s entertainment today. TV, movies, music, and literature. Parents are clueless and idiotic. Kids are smarter, prettier, cleverer than the parents.

Where is The Cosby Show when we need it?

Being Mom

English: mom and baby

My baby just turned 21. She graduated from college in May. She has an apartment, a roommate and a couple of jobs to pay for her living expenses. She is looking for her first “real job” now. She is legally an adult.

But, I still worry. Did I do a good enough job? Does she have a moral center? Does she have a good work ethic? Will she make the right decisions? I still worry and I will worry about her until the day I die. That is being a mom.

When she goes out with friends, I worry. When she tells me her car is acting funny, I worry. When she says she hasn’t been to the doctor, dentist, optometrist, I worry. When I tell her I worry, she says “oh Mom, you did a great job.” I am not so sure.

I remind her that nothing on the internet is private. (Remember when you had to capitalize Internet?) Make sure your posts are tasteful and appropriate. Future employers are looking! “oh mo-o-om”

Yeah, I get that a lot. I worry.

I know I really shouldn’t worry too much, because she is a great kid and a wonderful daughter. Maybe it is not her so much as the company she keeps? Are they trustworthy with my child? Are they going to treat her with the respect she deserves? I worry.

Will I ever stop worrying? Probably not. One day, she will move farther away. One day, she will be married. One day, she will give me grandchildren. One day, she will worry about her own children and I will worry about them all.